Plea is an appeal to chose the higher good. Life is a continuous journey filled with choices that give the opportunity for blessing or hurt. Plea is written to encourage the better part.
Friday, February 6, 2009
LEARNING ABOUT SINGLENESS
I wouldn't even begin to say I have a clue about what life is as a single adult. I haven't been a widower that long. There is new compassion in my heart for those who have lost mates, and there is new compassion for single adults, and new compassion for singles who have children. No, I don't have children at home, but this season of my life has also given me new respect for single parents.
People are gracious to include me even in couples gatherings and make me feel comfortable. At least that has been how I have been treated up to this point. No one has dropped me off there invitation list just because I don't have a spouse or date. Wanda is hours away from Jacksonville so I go alone for now.
However, I do have feelings about being a third wheel or the spare. I actually had a waitress asked me what was wrong with me as I sat with a group of three other couples and I was the odd single or spare part.
She blurted out, "What happened to you? Why are you alone with all of the other couples here?"
I said, "It is a sad story."
She responded mistakenly guessing that I had been dumped and divorced, "Poor B ______d!"
My friends said, "Not its not that, he......."
Then she went further and said, "Are you gay?"
I assure you that has and never will be true.
All my friends are rolling in the floor at this waitresses' stunning comments and questions.
Finally, Kristy's sister, Rebecca, whispered into the waitresses' ear what had happened to me, and then the server just about climbed under the table.
That was the worst situation I have faced, but there are many other issues.
Being single after 37 years of marriage is the oddest feeling when you get around groups that include single ladies. My heart goes out to singles in a way that I never had understood. It isn't easy for singles at all. People want to match make and put you together. Then you wonder all kinds of thoughts and feelings of how other singles are viewing you.
It ain't fun.
I guess that is why my mother said that it is good how God brought Wanda into my life without ever going into the singles dating arena. Now that could not have been any fun at all.
Welcome to Plea. This is my feeble attempt to share faith, hope, and love and to encourage better life choices for eternal good and blessing. I am a husband, father, minister, writer with a desire to point people to the higher good.
My personal journey has not always been an easy one, but God has been faithful to walk with me every step of the way.
My pleas is that you will read and be inspired to choose the higher good in life.